I'm in my thinking/feeling space on this and am open to thoughts:
There are two issues that I've somewhat conflated here. Generally speaking it's the relationship of a minority v. a majority. Part of what I'm thinking about is how we behave and interact as a diverse society. The other is how we behave and interact as a religious community (specifically Quaker).
It hasn't risen to the level of ministry. That is to say, while this is stirring in me, I haven't been given the words or clarity to share this in meeting. I'm particularly concerned about how we identify. Identity politics is is a Thing. Both the left and the right use it. Since I'm not a on the Right, I don't know the prescription for how they use identity to divide. I'm more concerned with my own camp. First, let me say that I believe I wouldn't have put so much emphasis on being gay if the straight world hadn't singled out me and those like me . It's because I was told explicitly and implicitly growing up in East Tennessee that I was an outsider, that people preferred to see me outcast, that I was degenerate, deviant, evil, unacceptable in the eyes of the Lord (and so on), that I was forced to focus so much on an aspect of my life that should be as inconsequential to me as being straight is to a heterosexual. My hyperfocus on my sexuality was due in large part to everyone else's attention to that aspect of me. I also had to defend my identity as male. When I grew up "no real man" was gay. toxic masculinity and internalized #homophobia shaped how I saw myself a man. I experienced real trauma directly and indirectly related to being gay (bullying, my late partner's parents trying to get his grave dug up, for example). I know "trauma" is over used these days, but it's appropriate here. I fought hard to convince myself and others that I was "just as man an 'he' is."
However, as a white guy, I am part of a shrinking racial majority, but a majority nonetheless. Growing up, my sensibilities and cultural perspectives were the dominant expression on TV and in mainstream print media. There were Blacks and Asians at my school, but not many. Whiteness was the norm. White supremacy (both in the systemic but also the KKK way) was dominant in my culture, though my parents tried to shield us from the harsher aspects of white racism and didn't put up with overt racism in our home.
So I get why white, straight Christian people are resistant to hearing about the plight of marginalized groups. If one has no experience being marginalized, and one hasn't looked to see how one has participated in or benefitted from that marginalization, one may be blind to the dynamics I explained above. Also, no one wants to look at how they participate in oppressive structures. That feeling of realization isn't pleasant. Not everyone wants to share. Many have religious views that support their prejudice.
I think it's unavoidable in today's rapidly changing demographic for me not to focus on what it means to be white, gay, neurodivergent, politically and socially left/libertarian. There are so many people out there who experience the world differently from me, unless I operate in a bubble, I'm invited to see how people live, think and believe differently from me. That doesn't threaten me. When I have felt resistance, I often later realize that some part of my privilege or sense of right order was challenged. Usually, upon examination, my sense of entitlement is what's really bothered. Sometimes my sense of being safe, of being respected, or being valued is threatened.
At a community gatherings and church gatherings I have heard things like:
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"You can't cook meat because I'm offended by the smell." (It's a potluck—don’t eat it if you don’t like it.)
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"I have all these food sensitivities; there’s nothing here for me." (Bring your own food.)
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"I can't do XYZ, so you can't/must do ABC."
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"Christianity and God talk offend me, even though I’m in a Quaker meeting." (Isn’t this the wrong space for that complaint?)
On one hand, I absolutely believe in caring for the vulnerable among us—"the least of these." We should show compassion, offer reasonable accommodations, and create space for people to heal from real pain. That’s core to many faith traditions, including my own.
But on the other hand, should the majority always be expected to tiptoe around the minority? Should longstanding traditions, language, and customs shift entirely because someone new is uncomfortable? Especially in a church setting, where people come to be healed—not to be defined by their wounds or to require others to change everything to accommodate them.
There has to be a healthy middle ground. Respect doesn’t mean relinquishing identity. Inclusion doesn’t mean erasure.
Paul’s words come to mind: “If food causes my brother to stumble, I’ll never eat meat again” (1 Corinthians 8:13). There’s wisdom there—when it’s truly about love and mutual care. But that verse assumes relationship, humility, and reciprocity—not just one-sided demands.
So where's the balance? How do we honor people’s needs without losing our own shape in the process?
Community Dynamics: How does the prevalence of identity politics influence the sense of belonging and cohesion within local communities, and what strategies can foster inclusivity amidst diverse identities?
Intersectional Community Building: How can an understanding of intersectionality enhance efforts to build resilient and supportive communities that honor and uplift the diverse identities of their members?
Power Dynamics and Manipulation: In what ways do individuals or groups exploit identity politics narratives to manipulate public opinion, sow division, or consolidate power within communities, and what safeguards can be implemented to mitigate such manipulation while preserving freedom of expression? In what ways do I use my identity to reinforce my sense of entitlement or want of security?
Future of Inclusive Communities: How might proactive engagement with identity politics contribute to the development of more inclusive and empathetic communities in the future, and what role can education and dialogue play in fostering understanding and unity amidst differences?
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