Random brain spill: Anyone else like a tall dude with #bowlegs ? 😍Having this convo with my parents and mom laughed 😂and dad smiled🤭. "Where did that come from?" she asked me. 🤔I dunno, it's not like I've seen an #urbancowboy in #baltimore . 🤠 Still, guess I've seen enough guys like that, it's become A Thing.
Add that to my growing list of things that no guy who I might date will have. I love a pretty face, but #chemestry can turn a #plainjane (or Jordan) into 😈. Not that any of my boyfriends or partners were in any way plain. #aucontraire
So far my unicorn (thanks Marian Sing) is:
Honest and has a strong sense of integrity
Tall 5'10 (or taller)
Brown or dark skin
Gorgeous eyes
Kind
Smart (book or skill)
More mature than me
My age or younger
Takes care of his mind and body
Has or wants a spiritual practice
Is open minded enough to listen
Has principles
Is open and accepted by his family (or at least his mom)
If he is of color, he has worked thru his main racial hang ups and fam and friends are cool
Knows how to take the wheel
Is an #Aquarius, #Sagittarius or fellow #Aries
Is responsible
Doesn't do hard drugs and isn't a big drinker
Not mentally addicted to weed
Has a passion/hobby
Likes to work out/yoga/weights
Has a career (technical, artistic, business, academia)
Is confident, but not cocky
Likes House music.
Has experienced and overcome adversity and gained wisdom from it.
If he has kids, it's preferably at least one son who's cool with everything and is cool himself
Likes DnD or lets me geek out with my DnD friends while he does his thing with his (but likes DnD🥸)
Will drive when we go somewhere, esp where there is traffic (Im evil behind the wheel 👿💩)
Is a fun, and adventurous 👅
Makes me smile and laugh.
Is not afraid of intimacy.
Is not an enabler.
Is a work in progress (and is doing the work)
Speaks French (or Spanish) -- we can navigate the world together
Has his own wealth or is at least financially stable.
Is as passionately into me as I'm into him.
Wants a strong friendship with me.
Has friends who share his interests whether I do or not, and is cool with the same for me.
Has or likes body art (#tattoos #scarring #piercing)
Is protective but not obsessive or jealous.
Likes touch.
Likes shared experiences, time and gestures over material gifts, just like me.
Is thoughtful.
Is someone whom I admire.
Believes in the work that comes with keeping a relationship alive and healthy.
Does not snore (or is willing to have separate bedrooms if he does).
Respects privacy and doesn't lie, snoop or manipulate.
Standa up for himself.
Never fights or argues below the belt (name calling, cussing at someone he loves, or using #AdHominem attacks.
Can cook well
Is a #foodie and will try most things
Like Marian said. I want a 🦄
Before I get any lectures, I know that I can't have it all. There are some things that are musts.
I learned a lil' about love and relationships with my husband and ex, and I don't want a copy of either. In neither of those two 6.5 year LTRs, did I have all of that. One I thought I'd grow old with him, but he died at 26. The other was doomed from the beginning, and we both should have remained friends (and still are). I don't know that I'm up for the task of even looking. The #prospects for #dating in Bmore are bad for everyone. I'm too lazy during the school year to go to DC and I have an old dog who needs me. In any event, whatever one's gender identity or sexual orientation, and certainly if one is LGBT or above 40, this is doubtful at best in my town.
At my age I'd rather have friends of whatever level or type of intimacy rather than tie myself down to a #compromise or by #settling. "You'll do" just wont cut it . I don't have generations of time ahead of me to start over if I make a huge mistake, and I don't want to add regrets no matter how good "it is" (or seems).
But I believe in Unicorns, brown, black or white. I can find them in #dnd, in a book or a game. My colleague Andy Tavernia has them all over her office. I can go sit and contemplate life in her space (unless she is busy, and do those kids keep her busy)!
And if a real life one shows up? Will I even recognize what I encounter at that point?
Thankfully, I'm only partially serious, but I know SOMEONE out there can relate to the mindset, as fantastical or unrealistic as it is. 💯
#fantasy #reallife #tongueincheek #humor #jokingnotjoking #kiddingnotkidding #singlelifestyle #datingappssuck #NoGRINDR #inmyhead
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